1:You are what you are. You can changea bit, or try to.. You are still that primary school kid regardless of how hardyou try. Hence, try to enjoy it. Also, don’t play games with your mom. She haschanged your nappy so many times, she know about you more than you think youdo.
2:Start something New. There is noperfect time for you to learn a new language, change your job, look fancysometimes, do sports, diet, break diet, get a baby, get married, get a divorceor travel to a new country. If you get a chance, take it!
3:Wake up early: since motherhood, 8am is considered late. And yes, I like it. Life doesn’t wait for you to wakeup. Sun is up at 6 am unless you live in Alaska in winter, the birds are up andas I tell my son, if the sun is up, we are up and if the sun has slept, we tooshould snooze. Your body functions well when you follow its nature and you areon top of your day before it takes toll on you
4: MakeFriends:it is never too late to make new close friends. You are not a light pole,strangled in wires and stomped in the ground. Move on, live life, make friends,bring them close and enjoy how different and diverse they are. You are loosinga lot by sticking to a criteria of friends. So much love is out there so getsome.
5:Make money: you need to make yourmoney in some point in time. May be not always that is an option, it isimportant you make your own money. You will feel how it is to be responsiblefor your spending, make proper responsibility balance sheets and make a gooddecision if you want to work or stay home. There is nothing wrong with stayhome dads if moms make more money!
6: PlaySports:As you turn 30, your body slows down, your gray strands populate and yourmetabolism chokes with exhaustion. It’s depreciation. Your 10 years before 40are your last years to put yourself on some healthy schedule. Find time towalk, brisk, jog, run, swim, gym, yoga for 35 minutes. It will fix you. Itdoesn’t matter how fancy your cross fit team is, if anything, try to find yourown partner, run with a new friend or keep your own company. Working out will repairwhat has gone bad every time you practice it.
7: Party: Party andhave fun. Crash into someone’s party. Be part of a new group. Attend outings thatyou are a stranger. Yes, be that weird intruder. Burst this stupid bubble, havefun.
8: Be aparent:there is nothing more interesting and time reversing than experiencing being aparent. Be a full time parent. Be thrilled to see a digger on the road orjingle a nursery rhyme on your own or watch Pepper pig in your free time. Yougrow younger when you have kids.
9: Motherhoodis a priority: equation Baby or (anything else) is always Baby wins.
10: Daddytime:Every kid needs Daddy time as much (if not more) than mommy time. They need tofeel daddy’s also feed, change, and play. They are not there to flip channelson tvs or show intimidation to the smell of poop. Daddy also do poop, just inthe toilet that’s all!
11: Family isthe origin, the home and where the heart is: It doesn’t matter what youthink of your family, they will still be your support and where your heart is.They are your real home not the chairs or the streets or the food. Your family.Cherish them, love them.
12: givehugs:I haven’t been a great love demonstrator to any of my family or friends. Ilearnt to give hugs to those I love when I feel I need to and when I feel theyneed to. Both ways!
13: When youfeel comfort zone- Leave: If you feel you are in your comfort zone, you are happy andrelaxed, make a change.. right now!
14: Cook: Cooking is agreat practice to share a simple effort or just to distress your mind awaysometimes.
15: Say whatyou feel:If you have an issue with someone, say it. If you do it, you simply do not careenough and thus, don’t complain.
16: No energyfor bullshitting and/or bullshitters: When you get older, you have lessenergy to people’s bullshitting. So unless you really have to deal withbullshit at work or so, don’t take it. Either stop it or walk away. We are tooold for this shit.
17: get overyour discomforts, fears: still not my field of perfection but I know I should
18: Nursepublicly if you need to: There is nothing wrong with nursing in public. If you don’tlike it, walk away. If you think its disgusting, walk further away. If youthink it is sexual, get medical help
19: Get ajob! If you cant find a job, get busy. Do something. There is no good TVprograming in the morning anyway. Do charity, organize playgroups, takeresponsibility of your buildings, make a street association to serve the peoplein the neighborhood, rescue pets, street children.
20: Learnyour mom’s figure and features: Always engrave your mom’s pictures,features, fingers, figure and sound. Close it tight inside you. For it mightcome a time you will need those out to make you feel home again.
21:Kiss your sister every time you seeher.
22:cuddle your brother even if he isolder.
23:Your hubby/fiancé/ significant otherShow love, gratitude and eat together as well.
24:Mind your own religious beliefs: Wehaven’t heard that someone has left their religious beliefs because some otherpeople don’t like it and we haven’t heard either that non/believers will get tobelieve because other people don’t like them. So cut yourself some slack, andleave it there! If you insist on stereotyping, then be a prisoner in your ownmind. Seriously no one cares.
25: 2 wrongs do not make a right: If it’swrong, it’s wrong. Don’t try to manipulate it. It is wrong.
26:Support Freedom. Supporting assaultsin anyway means you are next.
27:Dress comfortably: it feels good to dress up every once in a while, however,nothing beats being comfy all day long.
28:Have a choco croissant: every nowand then, with a cup of coffee and a good walk with or without company. 2 extrapounds, but it is worth it.
29:Get in touch with old friends andask about them. Get in touch with friends who have lost contact.
30:don’t abandon yourself from differentopinions. Expose yourself to mind triggering people/ opinions regardless ofhow odd or stupid they seem to be. At least you will make a sanity check towhere you are.
31:Know your limits: It is important toknow where to stop. Don’t overdo it and don’t underdo it. Just know where isyour stop point.
32:Finally: Set your priorities.Priority people, activities, friends and family are those things that are worthfighting for. However, there are also more things that are not. Invest in thosewho matter. The job you love, your family unconditionally, the friends whostick around, not the ones who turn and go. A good friend is the one who stillexists when you are miles away, hours away and lifestyle different. They mightnot look like you or share your interests, but they will be there somehow.
